Yours, Mine, and Ours

So you are moving in together, how wonderful!  However, it can be challenging agreeing on what stays and what goes.  Design style for a couple can be a tricky endeavor.  One of my favorite scenes from “When Harry met Salley” revolves around the wagon wheel coffee table:

I especially love this quote:

“Everybody thinks they have good taste and a sense of humor, but they couldn’t possibly all have good taste”. – Marie

So, it’s not going to be easy.  You know this, but I am here to help!  Here is my fail proof guide to combining two households:

First, pack and purge – essential for any move.


Inventory what’s left.  Compare inventory lists as some duplicates don’t make sense – how many food processors, mixers, and blenders does one home need? (The answer is one)

Take measurements of your space and make a floor plan. You can do it old school and use graph paper (one 1/4″ square equals one foot). Or use one of the many room planning sites on line.


Now the hard part, compromise. What if you both love your sofa and your bed and there is only room for one. Two very important must haves. First, I recommend  the one that fits the space best. If all things are equal I would go with the higher quality pieces and then work around them.

Now comes the fun part, mix it up and be fair, one personality should not dominate. Think like with like; Brass photo frames together, collections grouped by color, etc.



Next make an “ours” list and prioritize the purchases that you will make together, this is the most fun, as it will reflect your tastes as a couple.

Lastly, pull it together with a great new color scheme. That pink chair might look very edgy with orange walls!


Above all, please don’t keep or buy a wagon wheel coffe table … ever!

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